This article will give you three steps you can immediately take to feel better in your relationship and reconnect with your husband.
Step 1.) My full life, mindset tool.
Imagine yourself in an open space, looking at him; all your focus is on him. (This is a tool we do in private sessions.)
Most likely, you wonder:
“What does he do? What does he think? Does he still love me? Am I attractive enough? What does this mean? I feel so sad and anxious….”
Now, breathe deeply several times.
Then take a step back and release that energy.
To release this energy of overfocus on him, imagine a rope that you are holding onto, connected to him.
Drop it!
Turn to the side and look at the open space.
Here are all the other things that make up your life.
Your interests, your talents, your hobbies, achievements and above all your avhimenents (which is masculine energy), your joy!
All things in your life that are not about him and have nothing to do with your romantic relationship.
Return to being excited about your life and everything you have outside of your romantic relationship.
What is it that makes you really happy, energised and lose track of time? Go do that more often!
2.) Who meets which of your needs?
Sit down with a pen and paper and make a list of all the things you miss right now.
Put them in three categories:
- Your own responsibility; these are things that you can give to yourself.
For example, journaling, going to the sauna, a nap, anything that nourishes you.
- Things you can do with friends and family; do not expect a man to be like a best girlfriend or parent to you.
Make time with your best friend or sister, to talk, watch a nice romantic movie, drink coffee and go shopping.
- What would you like to do together with him that is reserved for you as a romantic couple?
And then tell him like this:
“It would feel really good to go out and have dinner and dress up in the evening for a date. What do you think?”
“I would love to go for brunch on Saturday, as we used to. What do you think?”
3.) What you focus on grows.
Collect all things big and small that he does for you and the ways he shows his love for you. And make an effort to thank him for it.
If he makes you coffee in the morning, say thank you and smile. After a while in a relationship, these things can be taken for granted. Yet, gives you the chance to reconnect, even flirt in day-to-day life.
Plus, the more you value it, the more he will want to do it for you. He loves your praise and ability to receive.
I am sure following these three steps will help, Anina xoxo
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