These three may come as a surprise. Many women I have worked with believed that drama, stress and overcommunication are feminine traits.
This is NOT true for Modern Queens.
Drama, stress and overcommunication are energy drains.
As a modern, strong woman, the Archetype of the Modern Queen, you can do much better than that.
Here is why drama, stress and overcommunication are not good for you, and what to do instead.
Habit No.1: BLOCKING OUT DRAMA
This is a decision.
Drama is a form of self-sabotage and addiction to suffering and struggling. Drama also feeds your need for chaos.
The most effective way to overcome this is through inner work and journaling.
The difference between drama and feelings is vast. Men love your feelings; they crave them. But men (unless they are also addicted to suffering and subconsciously look for chaos) themselves do not like drama.
Feelings are when you express yourself gracefully and confidently, sharing how you feel and what you think. He will love you for it, believe me.
Whereas drama is not saying anything, suppressing your emotions, not wanting to deal with them and then inevitably exploding. This can be a cycle. Things won’t get solved; they just pile up, crack, and then return to their previous state, building up until the next eruption.
Habit No. 2: SAY NO TO STRESS.
Stress is not a sign of importance or a badge of virtue. Stress indicates failed time management and means you need to delegate and accept more support.
I do not believe in women working themself to the ground to prove their love and value to others.
Having no boundaries and constantly overgiving might be useful for others who take from you, but it is not good for you.
Do not do that to yourself. Please take better care of yourself.
Say no more often; maybe this will make you stand out and even get women who aren’t there yet angry. Be it that way.
You will show them by example what is possible for them too. If they follow or decide to stay stressed, it is their choice.
Habit No. 3: STOP OVERCOMMUNICATING
Overcommunication, as in constantly talking, is not feminine. It is a sign of a disorganised, confused, often anxious person who has not yet managed to be the Queen of her Mind.
Overcommunicating and oversharing every single thing he did or said on a date with all your girlfriends will make the story bigger than it is.
It was just a date; let’s wait and see what he does next. His actions over time matter.
If you find yourself constantly chatting to fill the silence on a date. Do this instead: recognize the silence, smile at him, make eye contact and wait.
Let him work a little and take the lead. You will be surprised by what he does next. Doing this, I can tell you this will be magic to him.
And of course, to be centred, calm and nourished, focus on your inner world.
Journaling is like talking to yourself and being your own best friend. Once you speak, it will be much clearer and very precise. That way, your word will count more.
Anina xoxo
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