Being connected to yourself and in tune with your body is a highly feminine trait.

Loving yourself is a decision and that requires discipline. Self-love is an action and a day-to-day moment-by-moment choice. 

When consulting, I keep affirming to my clients: 

“You will make the right choice, at the right time. Trust yourself!” 

And during consulting, I often ask: 

”What would you do if you really loved yourself?”

When journaling, I ask myself the same question regularly, and I keep affirming it to myself. It is my routine when dealing with important topics. 

In consulting, I like to go to the root of things and enable the wonderful women I consult to become independent and self-reliant. 

Especially surface-level questions like: 

“What to text back to a man you are dating” 

Or if something is ok for you, or crossing a boundary. 

Becomes easy to answer once you trust and love yourself. 

As much as I love spending time consulting my clients and always feel honoured that such intelligent, smart and interesting, not to mention beautiful women seek my advice. 

My focus is always to empower my clients to connect deeply with themselves, know their own truth, and trust themselves. All without caring too much about unqualified outside opinions.  

In the first session, I sometimes explain it like this: 

“Picture a tree, where we work on the roots and the stem, the core of things, we build that strong and solid, so you can handle the branches, leaves and blossoms on your own.”

“You will trust yourself, become your own expert and act as the grown-up woman you really are. The woman who is Queen of her Life.” 

Here are some real-life examples of what it looks like when you trust and love yourself. 

Which exercise routine is right for you, at which time of the month, is obvious once you have established this deep connection to your own body, which only you can have. 

When paying attention to your menstrual cycle, you will need less outside discipline and control during exercise. 

You, as a woman, are the expert on your own beautiful and precious body. Trust that, my dear! It is powerful, and so are you. 

Knowing what is right for you and trusting your own boundaries becomes easy once you have built that muscle of trusting yourself. 

As a Modern Queen, you have also learned to express yourself kindly yet firmly.  

Especially with boundaries, you can find an intellectual argument for either side, leaving you a confused and exhausted woman. 

That is why it is so important to get out of our heads and back into our bodies, trusting what our intuition and inner guidance tell us. 

For us women, when it comes to boundaries, our body knows! 

I fully address this concept: of how to have clarity on what your boundaries are and the confidence to establish them, in my wonderful program, the Boundary Builder. 

• The Boundary Builder is a training program to equip you with everything you need to build healthy, authentic boundaries. 

• Whether you are single, dating someone, married, or in a relationship, what this program teaches you is applicable and will help you in all areas of life.

• The Boundary Builder helps you connect to yourself and establish healthy boundaries. I would not want to miss this ability anymore. 

Loving yourself is a decision you can make right now and then constantly practise by asking the question: 

“If I really loved myself, what would I do?” 

And to rephrase for better access and faster answer: 

“What would the version of myself, who loves herself and feels really worthy of all good things in life, do?” 

It comes down to feeling WORTHY. 

By working up my worthiness first, I was able to trust myself, and it transformed my life. 

With TRUST in and LOVE for myself, I got the following results, and so do my clients:

• I started liking the way I look. 
• I stopped having issues with food. 
• I made peace with my past. 
• I became the total Queen and screenwriter of my own life. 
• I established healthy boundaries. 
• I created an exercise routine that brings me joy and results. 
• I took charge of my energy – this is your most potent currency. 
• I evaluated all my friendships and relationships.  
• I learned how to communicate clearly and gracefully. 

I wish you the same xoxo, Anina 

P.S. If you wonder why, as a dating and relationship coach, who helps women find the right man fast and heartbreak-free through my Signature System Upshot-Dating™, this article did not directly mention men. Then that is a valid question. 🙂

The answer is that this article is still very much related to finding the right man because the man in front of you is a mirror of how much you love and respect yourself. 

When women begin to love themselves, better women show up.

A man can only love you as much as you are able to accept and feel worthy of his true love.