1.) You date with purpose.
Dating with purpose and clarity on what you are looking for is a fundamental part of Upshot-Dating®, my Signature System.
A woman who dates this way has her eyes on the prize—whatever that may be for you specifically: getting engaged, getting married, moving in, and having children.
Or, depending on your stage of life, you may just want a committed, happy relationship, but, for financial reasons, no legal marriage.
Sometimes, women bring their daughters to consult. Some of these girls do not want to get married yet, but want to learn how to attract a decent boyfriend for a happy young relationship. It is entirely up to you.
It is important that you set a goal and commit to it, so we can reverse engineer the steps you need to take to get you there.
2.) You value your body.
In early dating, it is essential to remember this: you do not need to sleep with a man to know if he is right for you. Nor is sleeping with him necessary to win him over.
A man only deserves access to this precious part of you once things go in the right direction and there is a certain level of commitment that makes you feel safe. Until then, you need a clear head to see if he can give you the relationship and commitment you want.
3.) You value your heart.
Your heart is the treasure he wants to win.
I tell my clients to see their hearts as precious, red, ruby-shaped treasures.
Do you take that and throw it at a man for being charming or for how he looks on paper?
Or just cause you find him attractive, regardless of whether he even cares about you?
If you do, what happens to this ruby?
It bounces off him, falls on the floor, and probably breaks. Literally.
Instead, keep that ruby heart firm in your chest and cultivate it so it is warm and open.
Stay in touch with it and let it radiate.
This is how you attract a lot of men.
It is not your looks, but ultimately, your heart that draws in, not only men, but anyone. To me, this warmth and radiance are the ultimate feminine beauty.
4.) You master both masculine and feminine.
Whatever strong woman, great success, and empowered, highly cultivated masculine side she may have. A woman who upshot-dates® knows how to switch quickly and skillfully from her mind and doing mode, into her being and receiving mode.
This is using the right tool in the right place.
Approaching your love life, specifically your interaction with a man you date, the same way you show up in business and work life, would be using the wrong tool in the wrong place.
5.) You communicate clearly and directly.
There is this myth that being vague is somehow feminine. I always tell all my private consultant clients to be clear and direct when communicating, but of course, always kind and respectful.
Communicate with warmth and softness but with crystal clarity.
This is especially important in dating and with men. Men are not mindreaders, and as my client, you are showing up for yourself by expressing what you want.