The Queen of Ice is one of the 7 Types of Queens I work with in my consulting system. 

Королева льда, The Ice Queen, or the Ice Princess, is beautiful, aloof, detached, and her heart can seem cold.

Here are the Signs & Symptoms indicating you are a Queen of Ice.

• You attract men who are weaker than you. Once you reveal your soft side, they do not step up and become more masculine. 

• You attract players who chase you and see you as a challenge. The moment you let down your guard, they do as you feared, leave you and lose interest. 

• Your dating and relationship experience has a sometimes hidden, sometimes openly aggressive tone and can feel like a power struggle. 

• There is a lot of hiding, guessing, keeping it together and games involved.

• You are scared to get hurt (again). So you make sure you project strength and don’t let anyone close to you be in a position to hurt you.

• While you are the full package on paper and in looks, women less attractive and successful than you have it much easier to get masculine men interested in them and create long-term, lasting love.

If this feels familiar, there is a high chance you are a Queen of Ice!

What is the story behind the Queen of Ice?

While she may seem cruel to the untrained eye, and keeps you wondering if her heart is really just a block of ice.

To a trained professional like me, it is ice-crystal clear: it is just her fear and all that cold, distant demeanour is just an attempt to protect herself from getting hurt. 

The Queen of Ice has been burned by men, love and romance. 

It has turned her ice-cold on the surface.

But underneath her ice-cold, hard, frozen shell is a soft, delicate heart, which she is out to protect like only a lioness can. 

The coaching goal for this lady is to give her the skills and confidence to keep herself safe in dating, around men and in love.

So she can let down her guard and show her soft, sensitive, warm, kind and caring self.

Right now, as Queen of Ice, she is doing the best she can with what she has. 

Being cold, aloof, and with her feeling frozen is the current way she copes. 

That is okay, but there is so much more, and you, my gorgeous Ice Queen, can do so much better. 

Let us get you from Queen of Ice to Modern Queen.

The Modern Queen Version of you is your truest, most empowered, bravest, and most authentic form of being. 

And as the Modern Queen Version of You, becoming the Queen of His Heart is easy peasy—just the cherry on top. 

Melting away the ice around a Queen of Ice is one of my many specialities as a consultant.

This is because I used to be a Queen of Ice myself. 

The Queen of Ice Problem, and how it unfolds in dating and on the relationship timeline.

Because the icy shell is not authentic and just a protective mechanism, it attracts the wrong type of men and creates unfavourable relationship dynamics. 

When the Type 3 Man meets the Queen of Ice.

The Type 3 Man – the man I advise all my clients to go for. The healthy, stable, grown-up masculine man will not feel the appeal in this Queen of Ice shield and lose interest in dating and getting to know her fairly quickly.

This is because, as the stable, steady masculine man he is, he looks for a woman who is warm, open and able to receive his attention without playing games.

When the Type 2 Man meets the Queen of Ice. 

The Type 2 Man, or any other man looking for a challenge or game to play, will take on dating the Queen of Ice, to break her or melt the Ice. 

This can get toxic fairly quickly. Once the Queen of Ice lets down her guard, this man will ask himself where the challenge went and withdraw quickly because, like the Queen of Ice, he, too, cannot do intimacy. 

When the Type 1 Man meets the Queen of Ice. 

Another match for the Queen of Ice is the Type 1 Man, the feminine man, or the Prince. He is looking for a strong shoulder to lean on, and at times, even cry on. 

And the perceived strength and coolness of the Queen of Ice are exactly what he is looking for. This makes for an upside-down relationship dynamic, with him in the feminine role and you in the masculine role.

Here is my detailed article on “the 3 Types of Men” I mentioned above.

As you can see, none of these scenarios lead to success. (Def. success: a happy, healthy, committed, long-term relationship.)

The Queen of Ice is the Common Denominator in all three scenarios.

Whenever the Queen of Ice meets either man, Type 1, 2 or 3, the common denominator is her. 

Because she has her guard up, there is a limit to how far the relationship can go in terms of real closeness and depth. 

It is only a question of time before the suppressed issues erupt and things get ugly or fall apart.

While the Type 3 Man, healthy and grown up, will just leave and look for his equal, a healthy, grown-up woman who is warm and ready to build a bond with him.

The more to the toxic end of the spectrum, leaning Type 2 Man, will happily engage in this dance of cat and mouse and the games the ice shield of this queen offers. 

Not toxic, just frustrating, will be the type 1 Man; he will not know what to do with you once you allow the ice to melt. 

Conclusion:

You can only build a true relationship where you are feeling safe and in the feminine role as the woman with the masculine Type 3 Man if you first melt the ice. 

The ice repels the type 3 man and pulls in the wrong matches for type 1 and type 2. 

Melting the ice will make you a match for the right man.

How can we prevent this? How do we melt the ice? 

Here are the 5 Steps I follow in private consultation sessions:

Step 1: We need to do an honest overhaul of your dating patterns.

Chances are all your relationships only go as far as a certain point, and either you sabotage them or the men, because they are not the Type 3 Man, will withdraw or turn out to be the wrong match for you. 

Step 2: A brave self-assessment of how you feel about men, love and getting close. 

This will bring up past experiences and hurt, which allows us to heal them, make peace with whatever happened, and let go of these old stories. 

Step 3: Facing your fears and deep inner work to evolve to Modern Queen. 

It’s easy when you have me by your side. While this feels overwhelming and scary to look at, I can assure you that while you are unique as a woman in your personality and beauty, this issue is not.

It is, in fact, very common, and you are in safe, trained hands to get rid of it quickly and lead a more fulfilled and empowered life. 

Step 4: The decision to melt the ice. 

Is ultimately yours to make. 

Whenever you are ready, I am here to provide the best support available.

You will walk away from this experience hugely rewarded with confidence and skills, and won’t need that icy shell anymore. 

Step 5: The choice to change and to be temporarily uncomfortable.

Is a key to success and a must-have for my clients to make use of the high-quality service I provide.

Complementary Ice Melting Affirmations for you:

“It is safe for me to open my heart.”

“I am able to keep myself safe when dating and around men.” 

“Upshot-Dating™ is fast forward and heartbreak-free.” 

This is to you going from Queen of Ice to Modern Queen and Queen of His Heart. 

Love, Anina xoxo

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