Here are what I call the 3 C’s of clarity to tell if you have what it takes to be successful in love when following my consulting system. I often used these three C’s as a checklist in initial calls to assess a potential client’s readiness. You can do the same by reading through this article.

C # 1: My CONCEPT speaks to you.

My consulting service and system are my passion and have been my dream business since I was 16.

Besides a formal education as a psychologist, trained counsellor, certified coach, and physicist, I bring my own life experience. Everything I teach has been tested and applied by me first, then replicated by my clients.

My approach is scientific, logical, and deeply client-centred (Carl C. Rogers) towards the individual woman I work with.

We start by defining, with absolute bold clarity, what outcome ‘X’ you want to create. That is your Upshot. Start there—at the very end—and dare to dream big. Then, reverse engineer and break it down into bite-sized steps. Write the steps so clearly that another woman could implement them and succeed at ‘X’.

Lastly, follow this path to the letter, with discipline, and get all the support you need to make everything happen fast. You want to avoid wasting time on trial and error, so get support and do it quickly and efficiently.

C # 2: The COMMITMENT to yourself is there.

“I am willing to put in the work and time it takes to become the woman who is a match to the love life I want.”

Answering this positively—and, of course, following through—makes you tick the second ‘C’. Congratulations. One more ‘C’, and you will have what it takes to succeed at love.

Commitment = time + work, and sometimes money.

• The time you dedicate to this is up to you. We all have 24 hours in a day and the same 7 days a week.
• The work you put into this is up to you. We all have our priorities; they are not what we say they are, but what we prioritise through action.

Besides one-on-one consultations, there are free and low-investment offers available that can still make a huge difference to your love life.

C # 3: You are COACHABLE.

In an initial call, I sometimes ask a woman if she is coachable or thinks she will be coachable.

Picture sports. You are the athlete, and I am your coach. You have everything you need to make it to the finish line—the previously defined Upshot, your love goal. You will do it and succeed. I believe in you; otherwise, I would not take you on as a client and coach you.

I will coach you to improve your performance because what you do now only takes you so far. The whole point of having a coach is to help you change, enhance, and subsequently improve your performance.

• The coachable athlete (client) will welcome this advice and the tweaks. She will be happy to change her approach. She has had enough and is hungry to learn and find solutions. She is willing to be temporarily uncomfortable because she knows it will take her where she wants to be.
• The “athlete” (client) who is not coachable will mistake my coaching for a personal attack. She will get defensive, try to prove me wrong, get triggered, and “hit back”. This is how you stay stuck in the same place.

Whenever you are ready, I am here.

If you have checked all three boxes, you have three investment levels to choose from:

• Bronze Level (*free): the Email list, hailed by my clients as “better than most paid content out there”.
• Silver Level: The self-study option starting at absolutely affordable prices.
• Gold Level: Individual consultation with direct access to me and my time.