A real relationship is official, takes place in the present, people know you are together, and you are an active part of each other’s lives.
An imaginary relationship is one in which the man is not an active part of your life, either because he is far away, unavailable, long gone, or you have never met him. An additional component can be that this relationship is a secret.
Here are the three most common types of imaginary relationships.
Imaginary relationship # 1 ~ the virtual relationship
You have never met in person; the relationship takes place online. You text and call for hours, building up a figment of your imagination of what this man is like. And yes, we women have the capacity to fall in love with a man online—or at least feel as if. He occupies your thoughts, yet in some cases, women have never even seen him on a video call. All this is not real. Unless there is a concrete plan to meet in person, stop this. You are wasting precious time and energy and misinvesting your emotions.
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Imaginary relationship # 2 ~ the unavailable man
In some cases, this might be an affair where you feel you are with him, but he is still very much occupied and committed to his wife. Most of the time, this is a man who is either taken or out of reach—a coworker, professor, a man who has no plan of settling down or lives far away. There is an obstacle between you and him, and you believe that by overcoming it or waiting it out, you will get your happy end with him.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, this article is for you:
Why do I like unavailable men?
Imaginary relationship # 3 ~ the long gone man
He is also unavailable, and in addition to that, he is long gone. He is not part of your life anymore and has moved on. I had clients where the man had passed away, and she was still emotionally and energetically very much in a relationship with him. Or you are still stuck on an ex that broke up with you a long time ago.
If you are still hung up on your Ex, this article will help you: How to get over your Ex.
Conclusion:
My consulting helps women create happy, healthy, stable, and lasting romantic relationships in which you, as the woman, are the feminine energy partner, with the man pursuing you and showing up for you.
Your part as a woman in this is not to go out and run after a man, but to let down all the walls and remove all the blocks that you have built up around yourself, which to this day keep love away. This is also called inner work.
It can be challenging, and it requires discipline and action. In this case, it will mean cutting, completely cutting, and stopping entertaining any of the above relationships.
Instead, please follow the links I have provided to each. They will show you what you can do next.
Lots of Love to you,
Anina