Challenge yourself for 1 week, and you will see a difference.
If you take it more seriously, challenge yourself for at least a month.
To create sustainable changes, you, of course, should make this a constant habit.
You will feel different; more relaxed, happy, loved and connected.
See this challenge as taking you from a lone soldier to being supported like a queen.
The common theme among the modern, strong, hardworking women I consult is that we are used to doing more than average and managing things on our own.
When you understand that it doesn’t have to be that way, and it is a choice you are free to make, your life will change for the better.
Ready to do so? Then here is your challenge.
I challenge you to accept the following 5 things.
1st. I challenge you to accept compliments.
I often spontaneously have to tell my clients how beautiful they look and how well they are doing.
I also tell women in my day-to-day life if I see something I like.
I loved my hairstylist’s nicely done nails and my friend’s gorgeous green blouse when she met me to walk her dog.
More often than not, women get shy, seem uncomfortable, and want this moment to pass quickly.
Or they try to brush off the compliment and play it down.
Instead, be proud because you believe it and just accept the compliment.
In addition to this challenge, start telling other people what they are good at and when a woman looks pretty.
2nd. I challenge you to accept help.
Let him open the door for you, carry the shopping bags, and drive the car.
This challenge is about the little things in day-to-day life, where you rush to do it all yourself, like you had seven arms to manage it all.
Dial this down and let others around you step up.
They can do more than you currently let them do.
To support you in this challenge of accepting help, remember that it will be done, but not 100% your way, and that is ok.
Give up control, your system will thank you for it.
Ask the children to set the table and fill the dishwasher.
If they are old enough to switch on the TV and use a tablet, they can also handle the dishwasher menu.
3rd. I challenge you to accept support.
You do not need to do things all alone.
Say this:
“I need support with housework, I work full time, and I have children. I can not clean and take care of the house in my free time. That will burn me out. I need someone to help me with this. So I have more time for myself”
Client example:
Lisa runs her own company, worked 10 hours plus a day, every Saturday and Sunday included, and cleaned her apartment and ironed all her clothes—until I told her to stop and get support.
If the 2nd and 3rd challenges are particularly difficult for you.
Definitely read here: What you are really saying, when you say I do not need (anyone) a man.
4th. I challenge you to accept advice.
Relax, you do not know everything. Nobone does.
Stop expecting yourself to know it all and do it all yourself.
That is again a trauma response and mentioned in the article linked above.
For example, I am good with animals.
Still, I get professional advice on how to train my dog from a trainer who does that as a full-time job.
Why would you think that if your formal education is in mathematics and accounting, you also need to know how to date and find the right man?
5th. I challenge you to accept a different opinion.
And agree to disagree.
One of the most relaxing things I have done for myself was to let go of the need to be right.
It is very freeing.
Be like Grandma:
She listens, but you can see she thinks it is nonsense.
She looks away and then changes the topic and talks about something else.
Something she likes and finds more productive.
This always makes me laugh. 😂
You do not need to wait till you are 80 to be this smart.
You can begin conserving energy already now.
Implementation of my tools in day-to-day life is a moment-to-moment choice.
It is in your hands to become more relaxed, happy and soft.
Which is what makes a woman attractive and magnetic to a man.
To you, taking care of yourself,
Anina xoxo