When you are dating, men will compliment you; later, as a married woman, your husband will do the same.
How you react to a man’s compliment can tell you about your current state of self-love >> how full your love tank is.
This article is a self-assessment to evaluate how much you currently love yourself.
And where you need to lean in and fill up that love tank of yours.
Choose which is closest to your sentiment when a man compliments you.
When a man pays me a compliment …
- … I feel uneasy, resistant to receiving it, uncomfortable, maybe even angry.
- … I feel good; his nice words make me feel special and fall in love easily.
- … I smile, secretly agree, and just say thank you. Then see what he DOES next.
Now read below how I consult my client in all three cases.
A. If you feel uneasy, resistant to receiving his compliment, uncomfortable, maybe even angry.
If you don’t believe him because you do not see yourself as beautiful.
Then we need to change that.
I am sure you are beautiful in your own way. Every woman is.
This is about how you feel about yourself, not what you look like.
Have you noticed that the most radiant, attractive women usually are not supermodels?
Read here: What being a model taught me about beauty.
Or do you feel it means bad, superficial things that he is attracted to you?
Is this a trigger for you, or an insult?
This requires some deeper inner work.
What I can say within the limits of a simple article is that: It is safe to have a man be attracted to you.
The right man for you will love all parts of you.
Your looks and your inside, the woman and the person you are.
If you feel anger about cat-calling on the street and sexual texts in early dating.
Rest assured, these are not considered compliments and not what we are talking about in this article.
Both are low-class behaviours and have nothing to do with you.
If a man acts this way, he just shows poor skills when approaching a woman.
Just ignore him; it is not worth your time.
To assure success in online dating, read my article here:
How to deal with sexual texts in early dating?
B. If you feel good, his nice words make you feel special and fall in love easily.
This means you lack this assurance, and we need to work on you reassuring yourself.
So you become the woman who is hard to get.
Falling for his words makes you easy to get.
You deserve more than a few nice words.
You deserve his action backing them up.
Leaving yourself starved for self-love makes you vulnerable to predators.
Or you find yourself fishing for compliments.
Studying these three articles will help:
Right and wrong reasons to fall in love with a man.
What is Love bombing?
The 5 Healthy Habits of the Woman Who Loves Herself.
C. If you smile, secretly agree and just say thank you. Then see what he DOES next.
This is the zone I want all of my clients to be in:
Able to accept a compliment for the nice words it is. But not giving it more meaning than that.
I tell the women I consult that nice words are a plus. What matters most is whether a man’s actions back them up.
For example, my husband told me early on that he wanted me to stay with him, move to Ireland, and start a family.
I just smiled and said: nothing 🙂 I decided to wait and see what he does next.
Your ability to receive his nice words and praise comes from having already assured yourself of your value, worth, and beauty.
You like how you look, love yourself, and take care of yourself.
This is not about being perfect; you do not need to be perfect to find love.
You just need to love yourself.
Keep filling your love tank first.
It is fun and makes you a radiant woman.
Well done!
I am proud of you!
Anina