Being “friend-zoned” is not a pleasant experience. Being in the friend zone, if not addressed properly, will slowly erode your self-esteem and the way you see yourself as a woman. Close to never has it worked, to make him see your worth, and finally understand you are the one, by sticking around like a spare. 

Here is what I recommend my clients do:

Do not agree to be friends. 

I have seen women do this, and I understand why they do. 

You believe this is the way to go: wait around, and eventually things will work out. 

Please don’t; it doesn’t work this way. 

Here is why you are doing yourself a disservice. 

Reason 1

It is not good for you! 

Over time, this will make you feel bad about yourself. It will harm how you perceive yourself as a woman. You will start to think of yourself as less than and more of a buddy than a desirable woman. 

Plus, what will you do if he has a girlfriend, become her best friend too? All this is not healthy for your self-esteem. 

Reason 2

It is not good for him either. 

If there is a chance for him to fall in love with you and desire you, it is likely to happen in your absence, when you have clear boundaries, put your heart first, and value your feelings. 

That is VERY attractive!

Instead of staying around, say this: 

Usually we practise this in sessions. It is called a script, and once you have rehearsed it with me, it will be easier to deliver it to him. 

Reading this as an article, I recommend you practise saying this in front of the mirror. 

This script assumes we know for a fact that he doesn’t want more than just being friends. 

In case he also has feelings for you, he will tell you now. Being this open from your heart will allow him to share what is in his heart as well, if he doesn’t return the sentiments. Then it’s time to walk away and cut all contact with him.

Script: 

“I have feelings for you, more than just friendship. I understand we are not meant to work out this way. So I have decided to keep my distance, which is better for me. I wish you all the best, but I can not stay around. I am sure you understand.”  

I know, I know, I can hear you say no, no, I won’t say this. This is embarrassing. I do not want to share my feelings this way and look so dumb and weak. 

What may initially feel this way for you is the opposite. 

Being confident and valuing yourself will make you speak this way. 

It is a very warm and attractive trait in a woman. 

Carry yourself this way, and the right man will find you. 

Well done so far, now the most important thing. 

Focus back on you and commit to your love life. 

Start Upshot-Dating™, read about feminine energy and attract men around you like bees to honey. 

Remember, you are the prize in love!

xoxo Anina