Even though I worked as a model and studied physics, I did not feel good, beautiful, or intelligent enough. 

When is it enough?

When are you smart enough?

Successful enough?

Good looking enough?

Enough of … anything?

The answer is. 

Only once you feel good enough on the inside.

Feeling good enough is NOT a destination. 

Feeling good enough is a way to see yourself, treat yourself, and talk to yourself, especially when no one is listening. 

With that in place, you can still pursue your dreams, work hard and be successful. But you will not feel so bad about yourself in the process. 

When you feel good enough, you have all your energy to reach your goals. And you will be able to enjoy what you already have. 

I still work hard, I want to learn, and I constantly improve my consultation skills and content. But I always and already feel good enough. I enjoy my life now, and I feel good enough. 

My clients are good enough, and based on that, they create the love life they want. 

To find the right man, it is important that you feel good enough.

When you feel good enough, you are able to draw healthy boundaries. 

A woman who feels good enough only accepts men who treat her well. 

When you see yourself as good enough, you will be able to receive good treatment. 

Here are the 7 steps to feel good enough. 

1st, understand that:

“I am not good enough” is a feeling based on a lie, one that you initially bought into and then lived by until it became a conviction. 

Not feeling good enough is a habit where you focus on all that is lacking—the classical glass-half-empty type of lens.

2nd, make a choice.

Now, as you read this article, you have three options. 

One: You can choose to continue as before and disregard this new information. 

Or: You can start therapy to dig deep and find out why exactly, and because of what combination of circumstances, factors and trauma, you do not feel good enough. 

This can take years, and I promise you the deeper you dig, the more issues you will find. It can also be expensive. 

Being able to give a long list of all the whys does not mean you have solved your problem, or feel good enough. 

On the contrary, as a clinical psychologist, my prediction is that you might feel even worse. 

Best it to:

3rd, ask yourself:

Always ask yourself, every day, moment to moment. 

What would I do, say, decide, not do, say no to, … if I felt good enough? 

4th, and then go and do it. 

Taking action on this, even if it feels counterintuitive, will make the difference.

This is the sure way to change the way you feel from not feeling good enough to feeling good enough.

Different actions, different results. 

The more you get used to acting and living like a woman who feels good enough, the faster you will be that woman. 

It’s simple: discipline and consistency are key. 

By doing this, you will end up feeling good enough, and we won’t have to answer the question of why, at some point in your life, you didn’t feel good enough. 

Once you feel good, you can still, as a mental exercise, find out why you didn’t feel good enough.

But most likely, it will not interest you anymore. You will be too busy having a full life, enjoying all the wonderful things that you can do, and have no time to think about this anymore. 

In addition to that, also practise the following three steps religiously.

5th step:

Catch negative thoughts about yourself and make it a rule to add three positive thoughts about yourself to them; this is to reprogram your mind.

6th step:

make speaking positively about yourself and affirming good things to yourself a habit, this is like coaching and cheering for yourself.

7th step:

Collect everything that is good about you and that you did well during the day in a journal; this is the best way for you to end the day. 

Conclusion; 

I had lots of clients who struggled with not feeling good enough. When they told me, I found it hard to believe because I am always in awe of the intelligent, kind, strong and beautiful women who come to work with me.

I am sure you are good enough. Please start thinking and acting like it.

All my love, 

Anina 

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