If you are wondering whether the man you are dating is, in fact, a love bomber or just a strong, stable man who is serious about you, this article will help. 

Here, I will give you a list of signs that indicate love bombing and generally unhealthy behaviours that should alert you to reconsider being with a man. 

The three words that indicate love bombing are:

MUCH | EARLY | WRONG

You can follow this rule: if it’s too much, too early, and feels somehow wrong, it’s most likely wrong. 

too much ~ the signs 

• Over the top compliments.

You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. 

• Texts, calls and obsessive follow-up. 

He texts several times a day, calls frequently, and expects you to be available all the time.  

• Grandiose romantic gestures. 

Out of this world dates, weekend getaways, he leaves work and changes his plans in a heartbeat. 

-> As charming as this may feel, this is not about you, but shows he is unstable and unbalanced.

too early ~ the signs

• Exclusive commitment. 

He wants to be in a relationship or talks about marriage in the first weeks. 

• This is special.

You are his soulmate, and a unique, special connection exists between the two of you. 

• I love you.

He professes his love right away. 

It is too early for all of this; you cannot know if you want to be exclusive, nor love each other, nor say this is special after a short time. 

somehow wrong ~ the signs 

• Your boundaries are a red flag to him. 

He gets easily offended when criticised or things do not go his way.

• He is controlling you. 

What you wear, how you dress, how you laugh, your nail polish, and what you eat. 

• He wants to isolate you from your friends and family and cut off all other relationships.  

-> This is where you need to trust your intuition, this feels wrong, because it is wrong 

Why do intelligent women fall prey to love bombing? 

Intelligence in one field, say research, business, finance, and any other, does not equal intelligence, skills or information, healthy habits in the romantic department. 

So do not be hard on yourself, there is nothing wrong with you. Not knowing these things doesn’t make you less valuable as a woman. Everything I teach can be learned, so start learning today.

A lack of 4 major things can make you fall prey to a love bomber. 

A love bomber appeals to a lack you feel in yourself.

A love bomber benefits from your lack of understanding of what is normal and healthy in a relationship.

A love bomber works on your lack of trust and your own intuition. 

A lover bomber can only get away with it if you lack boundaries. 

Conclusion & outlook:

The best way to avoid love bombing and any toxic relationship dynamic, or being with a narcissist, is by cultivating self-love, boundaries and learning healthy relationship skills. 

Anina