Finding the right man fast and heartbreak-free through my Signature System Upshot-Dating™ means that, as done in module 1 – the mindset work. You will examine where you have walls up that keep good men and love away.

Instead of running out and chasing men, which is masculine behaviour, we want to turn inward, focus on ourselves, and courageously remove all the blocks to love we have built around us, so we can shine our light and the right man can find us. 

Wrong beliefs about men can be a big barrier that keeps love and good men away. 

Here are the four most common but wrong beliefs (some of which I also held) that many women initially hold when working with me. 

Common but wrong belief # 1 

MEN WANT ONLY ONE THING 

If this is what you are currently experiencing, I feel for you. It can be disappointing when you are looking for true love and a man who will be your partner, and it turns out all he is interested in is sleeping with you. 

Especially as a good-looking woman, if you are not leading with your heart, this will most likely be your dating experience. Men are reducing you to your physical appearance alone. 

Learning to lead with your heart and understanding that there is more to you as a woman than your physical appearance is the first step out of this. 

There are other men out there who are kind and want more than just to be with someone attractive. Right now, there is something in the way you appear that keeps those men away.  

Common but wrong belief # 2

MEN DO NOT WANT TO COMMIT

Trust me, there is a man out there who is looking for this forever woman to settle down with, grow old with and have a family with. 

He, too, is looking for his soulmate and best friend. Men do have that same dream, too. I know you might read this and just won’t believe it. I was the same. The thought that men would want to commit and build a home, not cheat and be with only one woman, was so foreign to me, it kept me single and break off engagements… yet my husband, like so many other men, and the ones my clients get married to always knew that he wanted to find the woman to spend the rest of his life with. He actually knew this early in his life.

Rest assured, these men exist, and once you start Upshot-Dating™, you will meet them everywhere, as my clients did. 

Common but wrong belief # 3

MEN DO NOT LIKE EMOTIONS

This comes from the confusion of emotions for drama; no good man likes drama. 

Drama differs from emotions; it is the unprocessed venting of emotions, impulsive reactions and arguing instead of communicating and finding solutions. 

If a man is responding well to drama, that is a red flag in itself. The type of man I want my clients to date and marry is a man who is there for them, to solve problems and to stick with them through thick and thin. This type of man is not attracted to drama. 

Emotion is the glue that creates real connection, intimacy, and a lasting bond. Emotions are beyond superficial physical attraction. 

A woman who is in touch with her heart, a big part of what Module 2 of Finding the Right Man is all about, is using her superpower in love. 

Your heart is your superpower. 

When my clients open their hearts, they make it possible for men to connect ot them on an emotional level. 

Most masculine men are not that much in touch with their feelings as feminine women are. And when they come across that woman who makes them feel so deeply, they will never want to leave her.

As I told my client the other day, when she felt resistance to showing her beautiful heart: “With showing your heart, you can give him a one-in-a-million experience.”

Common but wrong belief # 4

MEN ARE IMMATURE, UNRELIABLE, INCAPABLE

You are looking at the wrong segment of men, so simple. Usually, this is due to bad or a lack of masculine role models. 

While it is true that some men are immature and unreliable, and you could not call them grown-ups. Which is a personality problem. There are also women who are emotionally immature and unreliable. Neither is the right person to get into a relationship with, let alone build a life together. This has nothing to do with men and women. 

The way out of this is to first acknowledge that only SOME men are (so are some women) unreliable and immature.

And then ask yourself. How can I be an emotionally mature grown-up woman who knows what relationship she wants to build (that is, defining your upshot) so that I will attract the matching type of men to me?

The best way to do this is through my Signature System Upshot-Dating™.

So excited for you,

Anina 

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