Are you a successful modern woman wondering why your dating life feels like a second job? The secret to moving from exhaustion to effortlessness lies in your approach.

Here are eight traits of a feminine woman on a date. This list will help you see where you are already dating Modern Queen style and where you have room to become even more powerful and efficient in finding the right man.

What is Upshot-Dating®, the Modern Queen’s Way to Date

By applying the following advice—even though it may seem very counterintuitive to your previous training—you will stop all the doing and pursuing that have led to exhaustion and start effortlessly receiving the attention, care, support, and love from the right man that a modern woman like you deserves.

Feminine Trait 1

You only consider it a date if the man has given you a place and a time in advance. You do not accept last-minute dates unless you want to go out anyway. You do not call ahead to confirm the date.

Feminine Trait 2

You are on time. If you are late, let him know. If he is late and does not let you know, you leave after 15 minutes. Always have a plan B for what you can do in the area instead, so you never feel like you have wasted your time or put in too much effort.

Feminine Trait 3

You meet in a public safe space that you can get to and leave on your own. Of course, you bring cash to pay in case you do not like the date. You have a friend who knows where you are.

Feminine Trait 4

You listen and let him talk and impress you. You are comfortable with moments of silence, where you just smile at him and make eye contact. Trust me, this is magic to him.

Feminine Trait 5

You are comfortable with your own boundaries, such as not kissing on a first date. You do not let the date run too long and finish on a high note.

Feminine Trait 6

You do not pay the bill. Paying on a date is masculine energy. Since he extended the invitation, it is common courtesy for him to cover the expenses.

Feminine Trait 7

You thank him for his effort and appreciate everything he does. This will make him feel good and inspire him to do more.

Feminine Trait 8

You do not ask him for a second date. As a feminine woman, you trust that he is man enough to ask you again if he wants to. If he does not, you know that another, better man will. 

Embracing these 8 traits will make your dating life easier and more effortless. It will set a high standard for your romantic life. The right man for you will appreciate you for showing up this way. The wrong man (any man who is not pursuing you and doing his part as the masculine energy partner) will automatically unmatch himself.

When they begin dating this way, my clients—all modern, strong, and successful women, highly intelligent and hard workers—report back to me that dating ceases to be a source of stress and becomes an enjoyable experience of being pursued.

Dating in this way—the feminine way—truly makes you a Modern Queen.

Dedicated to Your Success in Love Since 2016

Anina Green | Soulmate Katalyst Ltd.

Clinical Psychologist, Certified Dating Coach, Wife, Physicist, Founder of Upshot-Dating®

Your best next step from here is to download the Free Guide: 1st Date Etiquette for Modern Queens