Working as a model, I saw up close who were considered the most beautiful women in the world. Models in the 1980s and 90s had “perfect” features and bodies and were among the 1% of women who fit a specific ideal of beauty.

Yet, to me, the most beautiful woman in the room was Cindy, the stylist.

Cindy was shorter than the models, despite her “imperfect” features—a bit curvy, thin hair, a tooth gap, and a nose slightly too large for her face—she was the most magnetic person in the room. She ate chocolates, danced for exercise, and laughed loudly at anything she found funny.

Comfortable in her own skin, she often joked that she needed a ladder to reach the models for touch-ups. You would usually find her in flats. “I’m on my feet all day,” she’d smile, “I need comfortable shoes.”

What started as a hobby became an elite career; she was fully booked for shows in Milan, London, Paris, and New York. I remember her as warm, radiant, and funny. She always smelled lovely and was a gifted listener whom everyone enjoyed being around. With a unique style that suited her perfectly, Cindy knew exactly who she was—and she was happy with herself.

Here are the 9 things that watching Cindy taught me about being beautiful and finding the right man:

1. JOY ~ Be the Queen of Joy

A real, genuine, happy smile is the best and most beautiful thing you can wear. Article recommendation: How to be the Queen of Joy. It will help you reconnect with your Joy.

Often, as grown-up women working hard and leading purposeful lives, we can overlook the opportunity to enjoy the fruits of our labour; we tend to forget to enjoy the very life and wealth we have created.

In dating and meeting men, smiling is often the only thing you need to do, and men will approach you.

2. Perfection ~ Is Not Necessary to Find Love 

Cindy was, in fact, one of the few women who did not have any relationship drama. She had been happily married for 14 years. She knew her husband loved her, and she never felt insecure about herself, not even around top models—who often went from heartbreak to heartbreak, despite their “perfect” looks.

3. Communication 

Cindy was a gifted listener and a kind communicator. These qualities made her magnetic; she possessed a warmth and kindness that naturally drew everyone in.

4. Exercise 

Cindy loved being in her body. Even though top models know how to move, it was Cindy who had that extra spark when she swung her hips or quickly ran to another corner of the studio in the midst of a show.

5. How Men Fall in Love  

Cindy knew firsthand, from listening to their stories, that her good looks do not guarantee a woman luck in love. “Looks get attention but not hearts,” Cindy used to say.  

6. Self-Care is a Lifestyle 

Nothing tells how much you love yourself like the way you take—or do not take—care of yourself. I always ask my clients to take excellent care of themselves. Cindy enjoyed taking care of herself and felt no guilt about it. Her cup was always full, and she stayed a radiant, happy woman.

7. Know Who You Are  

Cindy was at peace with herself. She knew who she was; she enjoyed her life and had interests and passions within it. Being your own person, both outside of a romantic relationship and while dating, is one of the most important things I want my private consultation clients to embrace.

8. Boundaries 

Cindy had excellent boundaries; she would not tolerate being shouted at, no matter how much the workload. And she was always respectful toward others. Boundaries must go both ways; otherwise, we are simply entitled. Cindy’s boundaries were authentic, rooted firmly in what felt right to her.

9. Individual Style 

Being a stylist and make-up artist herself, Cindy knew what looked good on her, and she enjoyed making herself look her best. She didn’t try to follow every trend or try to be someone she wasn’t. Instead, she chose what felt comfortable and underlined her unique beauty.

Seeing Cindy in the high-pressure world of fashion changed my perspective on beauty and finding the right man. Your radiance—the kind that comes from self-respect, joy, and being at peace with exactly who you are—is the key to finding the right man and having true love. Not the “perfect” looks. 

If you are a successful woman who has spent years building your career and wealth but feel something is missing in your romantic life, remember: you don’t need to be perfect to find a husband who adores you; you simply need to reconnect with your own unique magnetism.

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Enjoy being beautiful and unique,

Anina Green | Soulmate Katalyst Ltd.

Clinical Psychologist, Certified Dating Coach, Wife, Physicist, Founder of Upshot-Dating®