Like so many highly intelligent female scientists, Dr Judy—a fellow physicist—had settled on the idea that she had to choose between romantic love and career success.
She made that choice early in her life as a student, as soon as her aptitude became clear. At 20 years old, Judy was not going to give up a promising career path in science just to ensure a man wouldn’t feel intimidated by her.
By her mid-30s, she had a stellar career in research and not only achieved but far exceeded her professional goals. Dr Judy found herself lonely and increasingly saddened by her single status.
When she looked for dating advice, the pseudoscientific approaches and the misuse of scientific terms so common in the self-development world appalled her.
As a physicist, she could see right through it, and it made her feel even more hopeless, because she was ready and willing to learn, but she needed a coach she found credible.
That is where I came in. Many of my clients are scientists themselves; they appreciate my approach to self-development and how Upshot-Dating® is the perfect combination of science, spirituality, modern and traditional, Eastern and Western cultures.
Dr Judy was so nice to answer this list of questions about her experience working with me.
- What was your love life like when you contacted me?
I was single, tried online dating, found it disgusting, and I felt bitter and cynical about men and love.
- How did working with me change your view on online dating?
I met many great men online, and my husband and I initially connected after I became an Online Dating Queen.
- Why did you look for a love coach?
I understood that trying on my own was not getting me anywhere. When I read testimonials from other women, I became curious.
- What made you choose me?
Your logical scientific approach appealed to me. I am a scientist, and I wanted a credible coach who does not entertain pseudoscience. And of course, your personality. I felt good with you right away.
- What was your main problem with dating and men?
I was super masculine in my approach, and I had no accurate information about men and love.
- Was it difficult to change that?
Yes, very. I was programmed this way and did not know any alternatives. Of course, I also resisted feminine energy because I thought it meant dumbing myself down. None of that is true, of course. And I have become a Modern Queen.
- Did you practise Upshot-Dating®?
Yes, absolutely! Every woman should.
- What was it like?
Fun! Exciting! I learned a lot about myself. I met amazing men and had fantastic dates.
- Where are you now?
I am married and very happy! In this marriage, I am very feminine, and he is very masculine; we love it. I am still the same at work, but I know how to switch back into my feminine mode.
- When you met your now-husband, what was it like?
He was nice, calm, and stable, as you described him to me, which is what I should look for. He was slow, steady and consistent.
- Why do you think you got married so quickly?
Because he knew he had to take me off the market, otherwise someone else would.
- What else did you do while dating him?
I kept affirming that the best one would win. I stayed on my throne and trusted that the right man would show himself, just like you told me to.
- Do you still get support?
Yes, I book a monthly session with you to discuss anything I need support with. I have decided to take care of this relationship and myself.
- What would you tell a woman currently dating and working with me?
Keep going. Do not give up, you will get there! Be open to changing your mind and letting go of old, unhelpful habits and beliefs.
- Can you name three things you learned working with me that changed you?
Leaning back and being feminine is not outdated and is very compatible with feminism.
It is okay to get help and learn about men and dating.
Your relationship with yourself is the basis of the love you will get from a man.
- Can you name something that you found challenging working with me?
I could not escape myself or make excuses. I took responsibility for myself and went really deep. At the same time, this was also the most empowering.
- What did you like about working with me?
Everything! The concrete tools I got to use outside the session, the implementation homework, and the fact that you understood me and encouraged me.
- Has this work changed you as a person?
Yes, I feel more “integrated” as a woman. I used to be hyper-masculine all my life in every aspect. I now know how to relax and tune into my femininity.
- What was it like paying for consultations and programmes?
A bit scary at first, but worth it! I would do it again right away.
- So would you recommend it to women?
Yes, definitely!
- Would you like to say anything to a woman reading this?
Treat yourself to this level of support. Investing in yourself is the best thing you can do for your life. Do not waste your time trying to do this yourself.
Thank you very much, Dr Judy!
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Consulting Dr Judy has been an absolute pleasure; she is my type of client—self-reliant, disciplined, intelligent, committed and follows through.
We also share the same sense of humour, and through getting to know Dr Judy, I was able to see her beautiful, kind heart, which her husband is so fortunate to have won.
Dr Judy’s journey from a single scientist to a happily married wife shows that you don’t have to be less than or dumb yourself down to find a masculine man who loves you and is your equal.
Dr Judy has become the modern queen version of herself. The woman who can have it all.
Dr Judy remains the same brilliant researcher at work, AND she now knows how to switch back into being the Queen of her husband’s heart.
This outcome was not luck; it was another round of replication of my signature system, Upshot-Dating®.
If you are an intelligent woman ready for a credible, goal-oriented approach to love, then you have come to the right place.
Just like Dr Judy did, you can find true love too.
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Anina Green | Soulmate Katalyst Ltd.
Clinical Psychologist, Certified Dating Coach, Wife, Physicist, Founder of Upshot-Dating®