Do you believe that if you love a man enough, you have to ‘fight’ for him—even when he has already walked away? As a Clinical Psychologist, certified dating coach, and the Founder of Upshot-Dating®, I strongly disagree!
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Nadja, a highly respected surgeon and frequent volunteer with Médecins Sans Frontières (Doctors Without Borders), completely undervalued herself by fighting for a man who did not return her love in a way a woman deserves. Nadja’s story is a powerful testament to what happens when you stop fighting for a man and start owning your value as a woman.
Follow Nadja on her journey from heartbreak to becoming the Queen of His Heart. Thank you, dear Nadja, for taking time away from your honeymoon to do this interview with me.
What was your situation like when you became my client?
“I was in a nine-year relationship with a man I was deeply in love with. He kept promising me that one day we would get married and start a family together. I wanted to have two children, a boy and a girl, and a happy family life. I took care of his house, garden, and anything else he needed my support with.
Out of the blue, he left me for a woman he met at work. I was broken. I moved in with my mother and had no idea what else I could have done to make him commit and move our relationship forward. When he proposed to her after a few weeks of seeing her, I was humiliated and in pain.
A few months into his new relationship, he called me and asked to meet. Of course, I went, and that is how we began having an affair behind her back. To me, this was the first step toward getting back together.”
What was working with me like?
“While everybody around me either told me I had to keep fighting for him or bashed me for how stupid I was for putting up with him for that long, your reaction was different. After listening to my whole story and reading my long initial email, in which I poured out my heart, you just told me:
‘It is what it is, and we will fix it. Do not blame yourself or allow anyone to shame you. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had.’
And then you started coaching me, and it was the first time in my life I felt accepted for who I was. This relationship with you and how you made me feel was exactly what I needed to change my life and see my own worth.
A Note for Context from Anina: To me, marriage is sacred—especially when children are involved. I never assist in pursuing a man who is married, nor do I support involvement in a relationship with a taken man. Instead, I help you address the root cause of why you feel attracted to an unavailable man in the first place.
My mother had always told me and taught me that if you love a man, you have to fight for him. Through you, I learned that romantic love, and being the woman in the equation, is very different from all the ideas I grew up with. It was very helpful that you understood my cultural background (Egyptian) and helped me navigate my way between the two cultures.
I learned so much from you about romantic relationships, boundaries, communication, and, most of all, that it doesn’t have to take years for a man to make up his mind. I learned that I don’t need to fight or compete for his love with other women, or win him over, because that is his job.
I started making myself a priority. I took good care of myself and began practising yoga and meditation, while also looking for my own flat. I stopped discussing the relationship with my mother and even cut contact with my two closest friends for a while. This distance from them was essential to me as I applied what you taught me in our sessions and found myself.”
What does your life look like now?
“I never thought it was possible, but I left him! I blocked his number and threw away everything that reminded me of our past. The more I practised all your tools, the less I wanted to be in a relationship with him. I fell out of love with him step by step.
I found love with a man who proposed to me after six months, and we are expecting a baby. He gives me everything I ever wanted and calls me the Queen of his Heart.
I have known him for a while; he is a colleague. He always liked me, but before working with you, I was not able to see his worth. The moment I healed my heart and got a healthy mindset about romance and love, I was able to receive his attention, care, and the true love that he gives.
We love each other very much, and I never have to work hard or fight for him. When I think about his love for me and how he treats me, I get very emotional. I have never been this happy. And I could have never done this without you!”
This testimonial is very dear to my heart. I am deeply touched by Nadja’s transformation and how she has gone from heartbreak to Queen of His Heart. I so love what I do.
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Dedicated to Your Success in Love Since 2016,
Anina Green | Soulmate Katalyst Ltd.
Clinical Psychologist, Certified Dating Coach, Wife, Physicist, Founder of Upshot-Dating®