The Queen of Ice is the gorgeous, cold, distant woman—successful and educated. She is highly capable in her career, but she comes across as guarded and unapproachable to men who are looking for love.

Beneath her cold, diamond-hard exterior, this woman is anxious and might feel hopeless. She feels helpless when it comes to love. Behind her stoic exterior, she guards a sensitive heart she is terrified to protect.

The Queen of Ice: 3 Signs You Are Emotionally Guarded and 5 Strategic Steps to Melt the Ice

While the Queen of Ice attracts men—how could she not? She is gorgeous—she pushes away good men, who read her coldness as disinterest.

The Queen of Ice will attract players who like a challenge, and who will—once she shows her heart as she feared—hurt her and leave.

It could be a vicious cycle and seem pretty hopeless. It can even feel devastating to think, “Why would I even give love a try?” I hear you, yet there is hope.

Natalia’s story is the proof you need that a total transformation—melting away the ice in a safe, controlled manner—is possible.

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Client Letter: Natalia’s Story

Natalia was one of my very first private clients, and before I could ask her to write me a short testimonial, I received this letter. Natalia allowed me to share her letter on my website, and it has been translated from Russian to English. Working with Natalia was wonderful. She has truly become the queen of everything I taught her to be: her mind, her life, his heart, and the queen of joy.

Thank you so much, Natalia.

*As always, I change client names on request and do not display actual images of clients because I value privacy, especially in the online space.

Dear Anina,

We just had caviar and blini and are spending a romantic weekend in St. Petersburg. He took me shopping, stayed by my side without getting bored, and carried my bags the entire time. After the shopping tour, we went ice skating and to the sauna.

He is now answering some emails for work, and I am writing to you. We are both sitting side by side on our king-size hotel bed and have ordered room service. He really loves to spoil me, and I am receiving and appreciating it as you told me to.

It was two years ago today that I had my first call with you, and now I’m married! I am still myself, more of myself, but also a different woman. I went from queen of ice to queen of my life.

When I met you, I was dating, but I could never create a connection. I hated online dating and almost gave up on love. I was terrified of getting close to a man, did not trust any men, and thought all they wanted was to sleep with me and then leave me. I was still angry at my first boyfriend, who broke my heart, and I had no idea how to express my feelings in a mature way.

I took care of myself and my looks, but I didn’t do it with kindness. I felt disconnected from my body and had no idea who I was. You helped me get in touch with myself, get to know myself, and learn to live in my cycle more. I got off the pill, changed my diet, and became more confident.

I found a group of really good, like-minded female friends who were also into working on themselves to be the best version of themselves and finding a masculine, strong man. I also had to say goodbye to some friends who were in a victim mentality and man-bashing without taking responsibility for their love lives.

With the proper boundaries in place, my life became so joyful. Besides the queen of my life, I am also the queen of joy.

The Queen of Joy – and Why She Matters

Another thing you taught me. I dated according to your system and developed a stable mindset—queen of my mind.

Besides having amazing men pursue me, I also landed my dream job in London and moved to a new apartment. This is where I met my sweet, amazing husband; he worked nearby.

Even though my intuition was developed very strongly at this point and I could sense that he was my soulmate, I still stayed on my throne and kept affirming:

If he is the one, he will win. If he is meant for me, he will show me.

And he did. I love the way he proposed, and I love how romantic he is with me. He calls me his love and says that he would do anything for me. And it is not only words; he always backs them up with action, something you taught me to value more.

This is the happiest time of my life, and I know it will get even better once we have a baby.

FOREVER THANKFUL,

Natalia

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Natalia’s journey—from being single, doubting her worth, and wondering if good men even exist, to reaching her upshot of being the queen of his heart—was not luck. It was the mere application of my replicable Signature System.

Natalia chose to invest in herself at the Gold Level and became my private client. We worked on her mindset (Module 1), she learned to love herself (Module 2), and she followed dating advice (Module 3) that actually works. 

Together, we worked through the core modules of my consultation content and addressed her specific situation.

Are you ready to move from being a Queen of Ice to the Queen of your own life and take your love life into your own hands?

Then here are your best next steps:

1.) Book your Modern Queen Consultation 

2.) Visit the Upshot-Dating® Boutique 

Dedicated to Your Success in Love Since 2016

Anina Green | Soulmate Katalyst Ltd.

Clinical Psychologist, Certified Dating Coach, Wife, Physicist, Founder of Upshot-Dating®